Everyone is like “fuck the police” until someone’s suicidal, then it’s “rely on the police! They won’t kill you!” Like bro if I was suicidal and one of my friends called the cops on my ethnically ambiguous autistic ass I’d never talk to them again
Like if you call the cops on a person with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, a personality disorder, etc…if you call the cops on a black or brown person…if you call the cops on an autistic person, ESPECIALLY if they’re nonverbal…if you call the cops on someone who is a combination of those things…well, if blood spills, it’s on your hands!
sometimes i think gay (& bisexual) men need to dial back on how willing they are to let straight cis women in our spaces
and like, that’s a loaded phrase – this obviously isn’t all gay men, and i know that at the end of the day a handful of straight girls being at a gay bar isn’t the worst thing that could possibly happen… but as a lesbian i feel a lot of painful emotions about cishet women being in my spaces, especially when they’re sometimes chosen before women like me.
the other day i was on a social media site (that isn’t tumblr) and a straight woman made a post about how she felt included and wanted to be a good ally but felt left out and worried that she’d be “ruining the gay atmosphere” or what have you by being in gay social circles and being straight. lots of gay men responded with things like “you belong here!!!” and “we’ll take care of you!”
and man, i couldn’t help but feel a little burned. i know the idea that straight women and gay men get along famously (because of their “shared” love of men) is in large part a big heterosexual scam by the media to make straight women more accepting towards gay culture, but i really do see things like this happen sometimes and it can really fucking sting
i mean, i would imagine any lesbian, bi, or trans woman being passed over in favor of the company of cishet women would be hurt because we’re actually a PART of the lgbt community, and that’s an obvious factor here – but the thing that really hurts is how gay men so rarely consider our feelings about the matter anyways.
i think a lot of gay and bisexual men don’t understand the complex relationship between lgbt women and straight cis women. i don’t think they understand that our relationships with cishet women can absolutely be as traumatizing as their relationships with cishet men.
this cishet woman came into a gay space to wax poetic about being an ally and how she worried she didn’t belong – and all i could think of was the hundreds of times i’ve been in HER spaces feeling like i didn’t belong. and spaces for cishet women are everywhere – i feel out of place at the hair salon and the clothing store and the mall and the straight bar and the movie theaters full of straight movies.
for lgbt women cishet women are our mothers, sisters, aunts, grandmothers, and even children. we have spent our whole lives carrying the weight of knowing we are not like them. i don’t even think it’s entirely the fault of gay & bisexual men that they don’t understand the depth of our oppression or our experiences with cishet women and the damage it’s done to our womanhood – there isn’t a lot of media that has bothered to explore it. the average person doesn’t understand the volumes of unspoken pain cishet women have caused lgbt women, even if they are completely aware of the damage cishet men do
a part of me really believes that this behavior isn’t so much gay & bisexual men choosing to side with and throw their lot in with straight women as it is a fundamental lack of understanding of the women in their own community. and it hurts.
the idea that humans are a garbage species is so obnoxious no one talks about the peaceful parts of history and prehistory because they aren’t as exciting as us killing each other but um homo sapiens have been doing awesome things all over for a long time….we survived the fucking ice age…we made it through the sinai desert….we shared the savana with big cats before we ever made a weapon, we wove baskets from literal plants and halved blades from flint to handles we made, carved harpoons from bone and fought megafauna for our loved ones, cooked food and took care of the elderly and buried our dead, painted pictures and shared stories, built homes from clay and mud and straw, made instruments so we could dance and sing…it is so easy to focus on the negative and i get it ok we are in the middle of a mass extinction event that specific humans are at fault for but listen: they don’t want you to remember it hasn’t always been like this…we were and are so much more than evil
It’s not just in ancient times either! A whole neighborhood recently blockaded their neighbors car to prevent them being abducted by ice and made sure they had gas for ac and food and water and stayed out there protecting them in the summer heat FOR HOURS a whole community faced a terrifying situation with so much love for a family in their community and so much defiance and courage its incredible, people can do amazing things when we act from love and courage and take care of eachother and it’s happening all around you all the time, don’t let them convince you people are inherintely selfish or bad
When I worked at a fast food place, one of my coworkers(btw all of my coworkers were single moms, not ‘lazy teens’) got her foot run over.
I don’t remember how it happened but all the bones in her foot were broken in multiple places and her doctor told her that she needed to stay off her feet for 6 months.
The company gave her the bare minimum of paid leave which was only like two/three weeks.
And you cannot sit down working in food service. No matter what. She had a signed note by her doctor, and she had to pay completely out of pocket since neither of her two jobs provided health benefits. She asked our corporate for at least another few weeks off to heal.
They denied her. So, with a toddler to feed, she had to stand for 8 hours to work. The doctor gave her a boot so it wouldn’t be too bad for her but she said that her foot would never heal properly.
She will always have a limp. Forever. Because a multimillion dollar company wouldn’t give her adaquate medical leave.
help out a mentally ill lesbian during pride month?
hey friends.. i try not to do this very often but i recently lost my job due to mental health struggles and im trying to get back on track.. i just found out that treatment for my scoliosis might not be covered for reimbursement under my insurance like i previously was led to believe, and so that’s upwards of $200 that i probably wont be getting back.. that’s a big hit for me while i have no job.. id appreciate any help i can get..
This will be my last attempt but I’m actually starving. Like right now in this exact moment and my bank account is still in the negatives and I still don’t have a job. I know most of us aren’t in a position to give out money and the few that are just don’t want to. But if y’all can please just reblog this post so the few people who can and are willing to help can actually help me, I’d really appreciate it. I just need a few dollars to get some food in my place. That’s my only goal right now.
